Marriage Guidelines

Pre-Wedding Day Preparations:

If  both members of the engaged couple are of the Greek Orthodox faith, BOTH must be  members in good standing of St. Nicholas Church.  If you are new stewards, your financial obligation must be completed prior to the Sacrament.   If one of the spouses has been previously married and divorced, he/she must present a copy of the civil divorce decree. Furthermore, if a previous marriage took place in the Orthodox Church, the divorced spouse must also have received an ecclesiastical divorce. Please be advised, this process can take a few months.

Stewardship  for Koumbaroi
The koumbaros/koumbara is the one who stands as witness on behalf of the Orthodox Church during the ceremony. Hence, it is imperative that this person be an Orthodox Christian; there are no exceptions to this rule. The koumbaros/koumbara must also be a members in good standing of the Greek Orthodox Church. If he/she belongs to another Orthodox parish, a letter of certification is necessary and must be mailed to our Church at least two weeks prior to the Sacrament.  Membership in good standing is a broad term: if he/she is married, the marriage must have been blessed by the Orthodox Church; if divorced (after marriage in the Orthodox Church), an ecclesiastical divorce must already have been issued.

No invitations should be printed until the date has been cleared by the church office.

Pre-Marital Counseling
In order to provide the engaged couple with every opportunity to enjoy all the blessings of married life, a program of pre-marital counseling is provided by the priest prior to the wedding. Please note that these sessions are not optional as they involve the teachings of Orthodoxy in relation to the marriage.

Ecclesiastical Marriage License
At least four weeks prior to the wedding, the bride and groom are required to schedule an appointment to meet with the priest in order to apply for the ecclesiastical marriage license. At this time, the following must be presented:

  • Their baptismal certificates
  • If the bride and/or groom have come from Greece or some other foreign country after their 18th birthday, he and/or she must present a "Certificate of Eligibility for Marriage" from the bishop of their original town and state.
  • If the Bride or Groom is from an Orthodox parish in some other city, he/she must present a letter from his/her priest attesting to eligibility for marriage and, showing the Archdiocese Number.
  • If the Bride is under 18 years of age and/or if the groom is under 21 years of age, a letter of consent from the parents must be presented.
  • If the Bride or Groom was married before in a civil service, a CERTIFIED civil divorce must be presented.
  • If the Bride or Groom was married before in the Orthodox Church, that marriage must have been officially dissolved by an Orthodox Church Court. The original document attesting to the Church Divorce must be presented.
  • If the Bride, or Groom is a member of some other Christian Church, a letter from their clergyman stating that he/she has been baptized in the name of the Holy Trinity and that he/she is eligible to marry must be presented.
  • If the Bride or Groom are widowed, a death certificate of the deceased spouse must be presented.

Civil Marriage License  
Before the wedding date, please secure your civil marriage license from the County County Clerk in Bridgeview, IL.  Please be advised that your civil marriage license must be from Cook County and must be brought to the Church Office two weeks prior to the wedding.        

Location of the Wedding Sacrament
The appropriate place for a sacrament of the Orthodox Church is the Holy Sanctuary. It is not customary to perform sacraments outside the Church such as in a home, back yard, or local park. On extremely rare and unique occasions, exceptions have been made, but these are usually due to other exceptional or extenuating circumstances.

Upon selection fo your florist and photographer, please have them contact the church for delivery and other special instructions two weeks prior to the Sacrament.
Please advise all in your wedding party that they must be on time.  Proper dress is required.  No shorts, jeans or sneakers allowed.
If you desire the services of an organist, the fee is $100.00.  Please postdate the check and leave blank who it is "payable to", as we do not always use the same organist.  This is payable one month prior to the wedding date.
There is a Chanter's fee of $50.00.  Again, please postdate the check and leave blank the "payable to", as we do not always use the same Chanter.  This is also due one month before the Sacrament. (Traditionally, taken care of by the koumbaro.)
As of March 10, 2006, the Metroplois of Chicago has implemented an      administrative fee of $100.00 for Weddings.  This fee defrays the cost of printing and processing of forms.  Please make your check payable to the Metropolis of Chicago with a  notation of "Metropolis Registry."

Sacramental  Preparation

The bride and/or groom who are of the Orthodox Faith are encouraged to participate in the sacraments of Holy Confession and Holy Communion the week before the wedding.

Wedding Day Preparations:

Items necessary for the wedding day:

  • Rings for both the bride and groom

(The following to be provided by the koumbaro/a/i)

  • 1 Set of stefana (crowns)
  • 1 Silver Tray
  • 1 dozen koufeta (sugar-coated Jordan almonds)
  • 1 wine cup (optional)
  • 2 white lambathes (candles)
  • Chanter's fee (if this is the case)           

Bridesmaids' dresses
Regardless of fashion and societal custom a sense of modesty and chastity must be maintained in the Sanctuary. Every wedding takes place in front of an icon of the ever-virgin Theotokos, whose humility and modesty requires a corresponding sense of decorum; bridesmaids must therefore have their shoulders covered in Church. If the bridesmaids' dresses have bare shoulders, a wrap or jacket for use in the church must be provided. At the reception, the bridesmaids may of course wear whatever they wish.

Music in the Sanctuary
If an organist is desired either to play prior to and after the wedding service, or to play the wedding march plus recessional, arrangements must be made through the Church office. No additional instrumental music is permitted to be perform in the sanctuary.

Invitations to the Reception
If you wish to have the priest attend your reception, please send an invitation to him and his presbytera in advance. Many people simply assume that the priest will come and then casually mention it following the service. It is very difficult for the priest to attend every reception. He will make every attempt to at least make an appearance and give the blessing before the meal.

Interfaith Marriages

The Orthodox Christian Faith blesses interfaith marriages under the following conditions:

  • The non-Orthodox Bride/Groom must be a Christian who has been baptized in the name of the Holy Trinity.
  • The couple should be willing to baptize their children in the Orthodox Church.
  • The marriage must take place in the Orthodox Church according to the prescribed form of the Service Book, the Orthodox priest being the sole celebrant.
  • Should the presence of a non-Orthodox clergyman be requested, the following must be clarified:
  • The Orthodox priest, after receiving permission from the bishop, will issue an invitation to the clergyman.
  • The Orthodox wedding ceremony does not permit the active participation of non-Orthodox clergy, this being made explicit to all concerned.
  • At the conclusion of the Orthodox ceremony, the guest clergyman, advised as to appropriate vesture and as agreed previously, will be properly acknowledged and may give his benediction and good wishes to the couple.

The following regulations concerning interfaith marriages must be observed:

  • An Orthodox priest, if invited, may attend the marriage ceremony in a non-Orthodox church, but only as a guest. He may not participate in the service nor offer any prayer.
  • Non-Orthodox persons may act as ushers or bridesmaids at the Orthodox Marriage, but the koumbaros/ koumbara must be an Orthodox Christian, as stated earlier.
  • Orthodox Christians may act as ushers or bridesmaids at marriages properly solemnized in other religious communions, but they may not serve as the Best Man.
  • An Orthodox Christian whose marriage has not been blessed by the Orthodox Church is no longer in good standing with the Orthodox Church and consequently is not eligible to participate in the sacraments of the Orthodox Church, including receiving Holy Communion, acting as a sponsor at an Orthodox wedding, baptism or chrismation (confirmation), or to receive an Orthodox funeral.
  • A non-Orthodox Christian who marries an Orthodox Christian does not automatically become a member of the Orthodox Church, and is therefore not permitted to receive Holy Communion or the other Sacraments of the Orthodox Church nor an Orthodox funeral.

Days when marriages are not permitted:

  • January 5 and 6
  • Great Lent and Holy Week
  • August 1 - 15
  • August 29
  • September 14
  • December 13 - 25
  • All Holy Days of our Lord (Despotikai Eortai: Christmas, Epiphany, Pascha, etc.)
  • The eve of Christmas, Epiphany, or Pentecost.

Prohibited Marriages:

  • Parents with their own children, grandchildren or great-grandchildren.
  • Brothers-in-law with sisters-in-law.
  • Uncles and aunts with nieces and nephews.
  • First cousins with each other.
  • Foster parents with foster children or foster children with the children of foster parents.
  • Godparents with Godchildren or Godparents with the parents of Godchildren.